When dating sites became a thing decades ago people told me they were sleeping with all of these women and it was easy to get sexual partners. So I basically didn’t go near dating sites or apps because the idea of potentially sleeping with hundreds of women is the most depressing thing I could think of. One guy I bumped into a decade later was still at it on the dating apps. Lots of casual shenanigans and I think after shagging half of Sydney for over a decade he had one serious partner and he was still at it on dating sites.
I am not passing judgement but that scenario would probably lead me to a deep depression. I need meaning in my life. Partners that I have had were normally either cultured, intelligent or academic. Having children was never something I thought I would be financially capable of as I chose to be the starving artist. Also before I had children I found them annoying and avoided them at all costs. When I started having children suddenly I thought children were great and I had time for them.
In 2023 I had a horoscope that said I would meet the love of my life and so nothing was happening and normally my horoscope is pretty accurate. Near the end of the 2023 lunar year I went on a dating app. What I got out of it was pushy aggressive types, people playing games and women who wanted a man to save them. I was in and out of that scene pretty fast and realised my initial feelings so long ago were accurate. I know you can meet people on dating sites and I know people who have great relationships from dating sites.
I think in most ways I am stuck in the past. I kind of realised that on the dating sites I was selling myself, I am a great salesman but not when it comes to selling myself. I am also brutally honest which doesn’t help, I see things differently from most people also. Like I said in a previous post I don’t see the point of having a relationship because my point of view on most things is heavily influenced by Taoism. Also I am not as naive as I seem because I don’t fully believe horoscopes but I had a hunch. Also you can meet the love of your life but you might not be the love of their life anyway.
derekjamescarter 
Goddammit Derek! I could have written that, but swap taoist out for quabalah and we share so many of the same opinions on these things. One thing is dating sites lack the divine alchemy. The very first time I used a dating thingy 16 years ago I found the Alyssa Milano of glebe and she met up with me. It was going well until I found out she was the best friend of my best friends mortal enemy. They both were working as carers for the trophy park (Botanical Gardens) in Sydney proper. The one who was leaving dead animals in my besties work vehicle and trying to get her fired. Then I tried again recently and found my interest draining rapidly as I was subjected to texting. Anyone who thinks texting is communication is missing out on life itself. There are allot of beautiful women out there, but, I refuse to go the digital route, I’m sticking to good old lady luck, happenstance, divine providence and last but not least, intuition. Besides it works best when you have two opposites to manifest something.