I was reading how in a scientific study that if a man is with an attractive woman after five minutes his cortisol climbs significantly which is a stress hormone. Sometimes people baulk at my disinterest and lambasting of sex as though I am secretly homosexual or I am a killjoy but I know from experience it is stressful. Sure there is a climax at the end but after the stress of reproducing and the general stress of attraction in general I find the whole thing pretty stupid and some philosophers say it is the pinnacle of humanity.

It is just pure stress that is ignored until you sanctify the union, with marriage sex just dies a natural death. Some men think that is why they shouldn’t marry but that is peak stupidity. Do you really just want never ending stress? Do some people actually know what is going on inside them? That leads to psychoanalysis and the whole nobody knows what they are or are doing until the analyst steps in with an answer. Even more stupid than not getting married and chasing sex. 

Yet even worse is knowing what you are and what you do. If people don’t even realise sex is based on stress and they choose stress they don’t really know what is going on in their own body or mind. Yet they make the choice to be who they are? I mean you can buy apps and devices that monitor your body and activities. Then that tells you if you are up to scratch and measures your performance statistically. There are all of these ways to peer at the living organism you are. I will admit though getting married can also be stressful, really anything can be.

Is it better to avoid stress and let things simply take their course? That looks like inaction and it gets confused. What you would surmise as inaction in eastern ideas actually still requires effort. The effort needs to be measured and somewhat harmonious. Saying that just looks like absolute bullshit but that is the hard bit. Maybe that is why I will conclude that stress, even though it is a difficult path, is at the same time easier than balance or harmony. The difficulty in balance and harmony is just making the right kinds of effort. Words like difficulty and ease aren’t the opposing side of this harmony.

The big cliche in all of this is things need to be what they need to be. They have to be as close to their natural state as possible. Even that is a gaussian blur for most. The best part is it can’t really be explained. It has to be lived.