A young family member went to their friend’s wedding and said the groom was an asshole as a general comment. I mean even if he is an asshole that doesn’t necessarily have to be negative. As long as he is on his wife’s side. He is probably attractive because he is capable and competitive. We are in a competitive society and being nice isn’t considered a virtue. Is competition nice? Really that is common knowledge. If you surround yourself with supposedly nice people is that realistic?

At the same time I am not barracking for asshole’s, I remember leaving an old job to get away from those types of people but it didn’t help me career wise. A lot of what I had to deal with was masked in my new job. I was happier but at times a lot poorer. Money never really made me that happy anyway. I still had people being asshole’s but they were farcical compared to the old job. It was just petty stuff that I could easily ignore. In the long run it worked out better for me but who has the patience for that?

Recently a friend has been dating a guy in a professional career. He is nice enough but he lost his sunglasses (expensive brand) and kind of got agitated. Most people I know who are in a good profession can be major brand snobs. Not that it is a bad trait. I mean the upside is you will have a lot of nice stuff. The nice van, the nice apartment, these people earn it for the pressure they endure. So she bought him some sunglasses that were supposed to be of the same calibre. He probably wasn’t convinced they were genuine.

I mean most genuine sunglasses will set you back at least $300 if not more. Yet it is the thought that counts. It annoyed her but he hasn’t burnt all of his bridges. He still has the nice stuff and isn’t a loser so that’s good. So you have these negatives which are sometimes socio-economic but the fact that even though he may be oblivious to what looks like snobbery he can still dress to impress. He is attractive in other ways. I found him good to talk to. I think he is worthwhile but can he be seen in potentially fake sunglasses? I mean they could also be real but a bargain right?

So we all have to deal with some negatives and there is no easy way to get around that. I mean what can you put up with for comfort? The girl who married the asshole for example, there is probably a lot of potential for bigger things. You have to ask yourself what you want in life. There is a middle ground but a lot of the time there are extremes. Nobody is perfect and in life things are always changing. You weigh up things, some people are impressed by creature comforts, some people are impressed by thoughtfulness yet being nice in general won’t open every door.